Blogging for a Season

I haven’t posted anything in quite a while.  I have three posts sitting in the wings that I will probably never finish.  I do not feel any great need to re-hash the divorce.  A month or two ago My ex-wife introduced the idea of the other man into the children’s lives, effectively releasing me(I feel) from any responsibility for marital reconciliation, so I am done with that.  I may write more about the marriage, and I may write about figuring out life after divorce.  I will almost certainly write more about the problem with porn.

The old flame and I have begun to invest in each other, kindling a new flame.   I will write about that a bit  as we cautiously step forward together.

I am definitely in a new season of life.  The things that are coming to the surface now are the fruit of many years of labor.  As I recognize that fruit, I will try to share it with you all.

It Is Mythological

This was from The Ransomed Heart mailing this morning.  I know this is off topic from my most recent posts, but the question of the question, and the solution that is a problem really resonate with me.  I have written before about where our identity comes from.  We all have that question built into us.

Why is pornography the most addictive thing in the universe for men? Certainly there’s the fact that a man is visually wired, that pictures and images arouse men much more than they do women. But the deeper reason is because that seductive beauty reaches down inside and touches your desperate hunger for validation as a man you didn’t even know you had, touches it like nothing else most men have ever experienced. You must under-stand—this is deeper than legs and breasts and good sex. It is mythological. Look at the lengths men will go to find the golden-haired woman. They have fought duels over her beauty; they have fought wars. You see, every man remembers Eve. We are haunted by her. And somehow we believe that if we could find her, get her back, then we’d also recover with her our own lost masculinity.

When a man takes his question to the woman, what happens is either addiction or emasculation. Usually both.

Are you porn again?

I have heard a number of good sermons from Marc Driscoll at Mars Hill Church over the last few years.   He is bold and blunt and occasionally a little offensive, but his heart is in the right place and I enjoy listening to him.   I do not think I am speaking out of turn when I say that one of his greatest burdens is for young men in and out of church.  He speaks to men’s issues often.  One topic that is often present is the struggle for sexual purity.  His church is currently publishing an e-book called Porn-again Christian.  It looks like it will be a good resource for many that are dealing with this issue.